Week 3 of Life Goals University
In week three of Life Goals University, we explored fear. This post is about Shaun King’s insights on the 5 most predictable consequences of living in fear.
Shaun says, “If you are not aggressive in dealing with your fears, they become strongholds that lock certain areas of your life. People wonder why dreams don’t become goals and reality. It’s because fear is getting in the way.”
Allowing the fear to linger results in these 5 most common consequences:
- Missed Opportunities – Fear has a way of blinding you to opportunities that are out there right now. When you eliminate some of the issues in your life or simply turn the dial down on some of the fear, you have a heightened of awareness of opportunities.
- Life with Regrets – As you continue to pile up the missed opportunities, you will increasingly end up with a life full of regret.
- Hills become Mountains – Fears left unaddressed become bigger. If you need a better image, mice become monsters. Now, some of your goals are legitimately hills. They will take effort. If you build your strength and confidence, adding new skills along the way, you will have the strength to climb the hills and ultimately the strength and abilities needed to climb the mountain. But fear convinces you that you can’t climb that hill and ultimately keeps you from climbing the mountain.
- Fears become phobias – If you allow short-term fears to fester, they can become a phobia that impacts the quality of your life. Fear grows. It does not remain dormant. Something as common as the fear of public speaking can have a negative impact throughout many areas of your life.
- Stunts your growth – Fear holds you back from exploring new opportunities. Even from exploring your own abilities. In the most basic of ways, it can convince you that you are safest just where you are — that any chance is a chance for failure and a risk to your well-being. But you can turn that around to see any opportunity as a chance for failure or success. And do whatever you can to shift the odds in your favor.
And then there is my favorite mantra of the desert people from the ground-breaking science-fiction series, Dune:
Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will allow it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone, there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
~Frank Herbert, Dune
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